Green Means GO!!!!!

So all these posts have been about cautions for the guy of your dreams. Any one of those factors can cause automatic hell in a relationship you thought could have lasted forever. You don't need the guy who talks out of his you know what just to impress someone, you don't need a guy to buy you jewelry and expect you to be locked in because of it; it's not a game. You don't need a guy who can't make time for you in front of his friends when he claims you are "everything" to him. You don't need a guy who thinks that every other guy on the planet is going to sweep you off your feet and take you from him, and you certainly don't need a guy that isn't willing to go out of his way for you every once in awhile. Soo, you find this guy and he passed all the tests and seems to be a really genuine guy and you find that he doesn't possess any of the red flag qualities. You're cautioned on what to do since you have been seeing each other almost three months. Answer= take the chance. Green means GOOO sista!!

Surprise Surprise

Regularly those relationships that have exceeded more than three months tend to become predictable. Those involved tend to mature enough to realize the drama that comes with a night on the town is not worth going through nor risking the start of a fight amongst themselves. So a movie, blanket, and some popcorn become the essence of going out. To them it is more than enough, I mean what's is better than cuddling ? However delightful this may be to you, friends become a problem. Not saying that the couple becomes loners, but the group of friends starts to think ludicrous thoughts about how you don't like them anymore or you two are better than them. Most of the time they guy doesn't mind staying in, it's the girl in the relationship that wants to go out and have some fun. But in the long run, you can't win either way. If you stay in you are going to get an ear full from your best friend and on the other your going to be interrogated by the man wondering what's wrong with staying in from him. The answer: nothing! Every girl loves surprise outings and for one night out on the town with your friends and the man being okay with it would solve everyone's problems!

Security Factor

Every girl loves feel to protected. Knowing she has a big strong guy next to her makes her feel more secure than anything else possible. Someone who can defend her at any cost is something that only a guy can offer. But being secure and being locked up is different. There are plenty of creeps out there, its the way of life. There are people to be scared of and others who mean no harm. The distinction isn't always clear but you can tell most of the time. No the way a guy sees it, completely different. Any person, guy or girl, who looks in the general direction of you is a creep and is therefore automatically considered to be a competition. Not true. If the guy you are dating has a sweet tooth for fighting because he thinks that one guy walking down the street is going to capture your eye and sweep you off your feet there is a problem. That's not considered being secure and protective, that's the definition of insecurity and a quality not to have in a man. A glance from some random person won't take you from him, but him being persistent with antagonizing questions will. In a relationship honesty will keep it together, if he thinks that your lying to him and always looking at other guys to replace him, then theres nothing wrong with your relationship there's something wrong with him. No girl can fix an insecurity problem, they have to fix it on there own. Asking the same questions won't get rid of the problem and girls.. don't try to make excuses for them, that will only make the problem worse. Only advice lay it on the line . Be honest. And if that doesn't work , then you know what to do.

The Real Man

Okay so he passes all the tests, and you think he is serious and you are finally swept off your feet. Then its time for him to show you off, or so you hope. First huge party when all your friends and all his friends will finally be in the same room. And to your knowledge the cute cuddling man you spend all day with normally is going to be able to show his friends the girl he has been telling them about for weeks. So you get there and you do the whole hello ordeal and then you go over to his friends and introduce yourself. You walk away for a mintue to catch up with your friends and you ask him to come over and he says in a mintue. Well a mintue is a mintue to a real man , but the man who doesnt ever come over obviously doesn't care that much. A girls best friend is the ultimate judge on any guy their friend is dating. A no show introduction, the guy definitely threw up an air ball. Any real man would be able to make some time to meet you friends as you did for his. Think about it , what man can't spend one minute for the girl he spends hours with on any other day ? Makes sense

Gifts

Every girl loves presents. It's the essence of a relationship. However there are extents in which the gifts should come. Stuffed animals are always something to add onto the dressing of your bed. Pictures frames decorate the night stand. Perfume,well you can never have to much of. But when it comes down to the more serious gifts, perhaps jewelry, there are certain emblems to look out for. Time spent in a relationship is the key factor. Long term relationships jewelry is nothing to necessarily worry about unless its an engagement ring. But relationships that have only been a few weeks there are definitely "clinger" signs. If a boy you have only been dating for a few weeks buys you a locket necklace. Definitely means he is attached. Attached may be a good thing or a bad thing. If he just bought the locket for you because he thought you would like it, that is a good attachment. A locket that comes along with an hour long profession of love, something to watch out for. For me, every locket I have received in the past comes later down the line with a psycho you don't want to deal with the end. The profession of love is cute, and romantic with the gift, but can become a major issue later when he becomes a possession freak and thinks that locket means you are locked down. Freedom is good and no one should have the right to take that away. Not even the boy that spends money on you, it ends up not being everything you saw coming that night he gave you that box.

The Red Flag

So the man of your dreams finally asks you out. You do the whole dinner and a movie date, the whole day at the mall if he really likes you. Then its finally the night when he comes to your house to meet the parents and sit in your basement and relax. First red flag to look out for him agreeing to something your dad mentions that he absolutely HATES !! Definitely throws a red flag, if he can't show himself to your parents its definitely a lot easier to lie to someone who is drooling over him. Second red flag is when he initiates a conversation about your relationship. Its only been two weeks, you don't profess a two week love that quick, definitely time to throw the caution flag. Be careful ! These guys think that the "love" you share is irresistible but its not irresistible to the father of the daughter you are dating! No fear = NO GO !!

The 411

So to my knowledge everyone when they first enter into a relationship feels the same way. "He's amazing," "I like him a lot," "We definitely hit it off." What people don't realize is the essence of these words to the person who you think you will be spending the rest of your life with. Now I'm not saying I'm Dr. Phil or Maury and can fix anyone's problems, but I've been around the world and back when it comes to boys and I've learned simple things that maybe you just haven't noticed. I've dated small, tall, sweet, sour, naughty and nice, but no matter the type they all follow the same "game plan" and do things us poor women find amazing enough to wipe us off our feet. So for the next couple days be prepared to get tips, stories, and the low down on how to avoid the disatrous love you were not dreaming about from the first kiss.